You might wondered by the title of blog and day I choose to write this blog i.e. on 14th Feb. All of us know this day as Valentine’s Day.
But yes I think this is the right day to write on this topic.
She said 'No' to him and he committed suicide ……..
More often we hear such kind of news in our surroundings.
A single (I say 'not handled') rejection or ‘NO’ ends up with one’s life…look how much strong is this ‘NO’.
We often worried of this rejection or ‘NO’, then this rejection is either from Society or from the our closed person, directly or indirectly, we don’t want to hear this ‘NO’
Cause we learnt since we were child that ‘NO’ means opposite of ‘YES’, that means again negation.
Truly speaking, everybody has to face this rejection in their life in one or other way at any step of life.
May be this rejection started very early in our childhood when we had demanded something to our parents and they had said ‘NO’ to that. May be there were some reasons behind that but we got angry; then we grown up and we understand the secret reasons behind that ‘NO’ that those rejection ware for our better future.
Such kind of this small-small rejection then starts becoming our part of Life, and then time comes….(sound from Drums) that we start liking someone (off course this time comes in everybody’s life). Sometimes that liking turns into LOVE, (ya correct
everybody is not this much lucky ki ‘Ankho –ankho me pyaar ho gaya’) Someone has to come ahead and propose the things……but most of us are afraid of the result, that what will I do if she/he says ‘NO’ and only because of this ‘IF’, most of love stories ends before start.
Have you ever given thought on this, that why does he/she reject you or said ‘NO’ to you?????
Truly, most of the time this rejection is to who are you as Person. Rejection to your
wish of being Husband or Wife. Cause everybody has their own liking and disliking. Everybody has some idea or we can say a sketch of his/her life partner. May be you are not fit into that idea or sketch, and so you get rejection or may be he/she likes someone else that’s why you get rejection.
But that person doesn’t try to understand the reason behind ‘NO’ and suffers. This ‘NO’ involves in his/her life so badly, that question of existence arises…..
Actually by rejecting that person he/she has done good job, cause only not able to say ‘NO’ people got married and then for whole life they have to face the consequences.
If you take this rejection positively, then who knows that this rejection (‘NO’) brings new evolution in your life.
Of course some of rejections change our whole life. Great example of J.K. Rowling, she had met so many publishers for her book (now world known) ‘Harry Potter’, but every time she got rejection. But now we all love her creation Harry Potter and his fantasies. Another one is Walt Disney, he had to loose his job, cause editor said that he didn’t have good cartoons and new ideas. But after that Disney’s Micky and Donald are world famous.
These all people found out, one or more positive things from the rejection they had got.
And yes off course the way of handling a rejection is big deal, in the same way saying ‘NO’ is also big deal, but we should learn that how to handle this ‘NO’ and how to say ‘NO’.
Cause in past I came across the saying from Tony Blair that :-
“The art of Leadership is saying no, not saying yes, it is very easy to say yes, and so difficult to say NO.”
But yes I think this is the right day to write on this topic.
She said 'No' to him and he committed suicide ……..
More often we hear such kind of news in our surroundings.
A single (I say 'not handled') rejection or ‘NO’ ends up with one’s life…look how much strong is this ‘NO’.
We often worried of this rejection or ‘NO’, then this rejection is either from Society or from the our closed person, directly or indirectly, we don’t want to hear this ‘NO’
Cause we learnt since we were child that ‘NO’ means opposite of ‘YES’, that means again negation.
Truly speaking, everybody has to face this rejection in their life in one or other way at any step of life.
May be this rejection started very early in our childhood when we had demanded something to our parents and they had said ‘NO’ to that. May be there were some reasons behind that but we got angry; then we grown up and we understand the secret reasons behind that ‘NO’ that those rejection ware for our better future.
Such kind of this small-small rejection then starts becoming our part of Life, and then time comes….(sound from Drums) that we start liking someone (off course this time comes in everybody’s life). Sometimes that liking turns into LOVE, (ya correct
everybody is not this much lucky ki ‘Ankho –ankho me pyaar ho gaya’) Someone has to come ahead and propose the things……but most of us are afraid of the result, that what will I do if she/he says ‘NO’ and only because of this ‘IF’, most of love stories ends before start.
Have you ever given thought on this, that why does he/she reject you or said ‘NO’ to you?????
Truly, most of the time this rejection is to who are you as Person. Rejection to your
wish of being Husband or Wife. Cause everybody has their own liking and disliking. Everybody has some idea or we can say a sketch of his/her life partner. May be you are not fit into that idea or sketch, and so you get rejection or may be he/she likes someone else that’s why you get rejection.
But that person doesn’t try to understand the reason behind ‘NO’ and suffers. This ‘NO’ involves in his/her life so badly, that question of existence arises…..
Actually by rejecting that person he/she has done good job, cause only not able to say ‘NO’ people got married and then for whole life they have to face the consequences.
If you take this rejection positively, then who knows that this rejection (‘NO’) brings new evolution in your life.
Of course some of rejections change our whole life. Great example of J.K. Rowling, she had met so many publishers for her book (now world known) ‘Harry Potter’, but every time she got rejection. But now we all love her creation Harry Potter and his fantasies. Another one is Walt Disney, he had to loose his job, cause editor said that he didn’t have good cartoons and new ideas. But after that Disney’s Micky and Donald are world famous.
These all people found out, one or more positive things from the rejection they had got.
And yes off course the way of handling a rejection is big deal, in the same way saying ‘NO’ is also big deal, but we should learn that how to handle this ‘NO’ and how to say ‘NO’.
Cause in past I came across the saying from Tony Blair that :-
“The art of Leadership is saying no, not saying yes, it is very easy to say yes, and so difficult to say NO.”
